Change your Life by changing How you Feel

All our experiences are defined by our emotional attachment to what is going on in our life. The fact is that none of our experiences are good or bad by themselves. Good or bad are subjective terms and each person's definition of good or bad is influenced by the emotions they attach to it.

We all like good things in our life because they carry positive emotions. What if we could find a positive emotion in every negative emotion that we feel? Wouldn't that be simply amazing?

Every strong emotion that we feel calls us to take some action. When we experience a strong positive emotion, normally we are pretty clear about the action that we need to take. The problem comes when we are smacked with a strong negative emotion and do not know what action to take.

Here are six simple steps to help you transform your negative emotions into positive experiences:-

1.       Notice

Whenever you feel a negative emotion, stop and take a notice of it. Just accept your negative mood without trying to justify it. Acknowledge the negative emotion and know that something needs to change.

2.       Look for the message

Ask yourself, "What is this negative emotion trying to tell me about my present situation? Do I need to change my perception, approach or action? Am I reacting out of misinterpretation, old filters, limiting beliefs, fears etc?" Look for an answer to these questions.

3.       What do you really want?

Ask yourself, "Right now I am feeling…………..(fill in your present emotion), but how do I really want to feel? To feel how I want to feel, what do I really need to believe? In order to believe what I need to believe, what do I need to do?" Answer these questions honestly.

4.       Remember the past

Think back to those times when you had felt the very same negative emotion that you are feeling right now. Remember how you got through this emotion at that time. Know that you have been through this before and gotten out of it. And if you could do it at one time, you can do it once again. Derive strength and reassurance from your past struggles and get through your current challenge.

5.       Think out of the box

Take a few minutes and think of some creative ways in which you can change your emotion. Take the best idea and visualize it. Soon you will move past the negativity into a zone of creativity.

6.       Transform

Now that you have crossed the barrier, take immediate action to transform your negativity into positivity.

Remember, even though you experience your emotions, you are not your emotions. Your emotions may define your experience but they do not define you. So, stop claiming your emotions as self-definitions. For example, instead of saying, 'I am so angry', say, 'I am feeling angry'… It is a small difference but it makes all the difference.

Change your life by changing how you feel…………..

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Chitra Jha

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Raise your Self-esteem

Self confidence is like a magic wand which has the power to miraculously create success. When we have confidence in ourselves and our dreams, we can achieve just about anything in life. Our confidence sends out positive vibrations into the universe which attract more opportunities, abundance and positive relationships into our life.

But how can we raise our confidence? Here are a few simple steps to do just that:-

·         Relax: It has been said that confidence is our natural state, and whenever we feel fully relaxed, this confident state comes naturally to the fore. Since the key to confidence lies in relaxation, take some time to slow down and relax. Deep breathing, pranayam, yoga and meditation are highly recommended tools for relaxation.

·         Smile: A smile brings out a little burst of confidence instantly. Don't forget to wear a smile first thing in the morning. Focus on something that makes you feel like smiling and do this whenever you need a shot of confidence. Confident people are not afraid to smile.

·         Be authentic: Don't hide how you truly feel. Don't worry about what others may think. Be truthful and real. Don't hide behind masks. Remember, it is alright to feel pain, and express emotions. Take the risk to be real, and see your energy levels soar. Authentic behavior binds people together while masks create walls. Over a period of time the real, confident you will push out the false, insecure and under-confident you.

·         Be silent: Practice remaining silent for some time. Try sitting like a still, silent statue for five minutes every morning. Initially it may not be easy to do absolutely nothing, but soon you will start enjoying the crystal clarity that fills you up when you sit silently. This silence will free you to find courage to do whatever you wish to do in life. You will also discover your childlike nature, which is confident and playful.

Try these four simple tools, make yourself the number one priority in your life and allow yourself to feel confident once again. Confidence will lead you to better financial situation, relationships, career, and health.

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Chitra Jha
Inner Peace Counselor
Past Life Regression Therapist
'Inner Child Work' Facilitator
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Success follows Happiness

It has been rightly said that success and happiness walk hand in hand; but our understanding of the concept has been slightly lopsided. We are told that success brings happiness, while the truth is that happiness brings success. Yes, we would all be successful if we learn to be happy first. Here are some ways to feel happy and invite success in your life:-

·         Smile: As you flash a genuine smile, it becomes a source of your joy. You don't have to have a reason to smile. Just make smile a habit and never forget to wear it as soon as you get up in the morning. Smile right now and experience happiness.

·         Breathe: We are breathing beings who cannot survive without it. And yet, we hardly pay any attention to our breath. Pay attention to your in-breath and out-breath now. Feel the fresh energy filling you up and the stale energy exiting your body. Feel energetic.

·         Walk: As you take a quiet, conscious walk, focus on each step that you take. Imagine these steps leading you towards your bright future. Anchor this feeling with your walk, so that every time you take a purposeful step, it leads you to the purpose of your life.

·         Be grateful: Happiness comes when we count our blessings, and there is no one in this world, who hasn't been blessed with something to be grateful for. Make a gratitude list right now.  Write down everything that you are grateful for. As you write this list, you will start appreciating your life more than you ever have. Remember to express gratitude to all the people in your life, who have made your life worth living. As you express more gratitude, your life will attract more to be grateful for.

·         Forgive: It is said that to err is human while to forgive is Divine. So, forgive everyone who has ever done anything to hurt or harm you. As you begin to forgive others for any wrongdoing, you release all your resentments and anger. In the process, your happiness levels grow.

·         Stretch: Have you ever seen animals, especially dogs and cats, stretching their bodies? Animals instinctively know that a simple stretch releases all the stale energies from the body cells. Stand up, stretch your limbs and experience the rejuvenation and rejoicing of your cells.

·         Dance: Dancing is a wonderful tool to access joy. You can dance with your friends or all by yourself. All you have to do is turn on some music and move with the flow. Dance as often and for as long as you can.

·         Play with an animal: Animals make us get in touch with our core energy, as they exhibit unconditional love. If you don't 'own' a pet, you can spend some time with a stray animal; soon their unadulterated love will bowl you over.

·         Serve: We are born into this world to offer our unique talents in service. When you serve someone who needs you, you make best use of your body and mind. When you do something nice for someone, your happiness becomes your reward.

·         Pray: A prayer is nothing but a conversation with a Higher Power. Treat God as your friend, parent, teacher and soul-mate. Hand over all your troubles to Him and remain happy.

As you inculcate more happiness into your life, your increased vibration will attract more success into your life, across all areas. So, don't worry, be happy………………….

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Chitra Jha
Inner Peace Counselor
Past Life Regression Therapist
'Inner Child Work' Facilitator
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http://chitrabuddha.sulekha.com

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Manifest Your Desires

 

 

Our traditional society often scoffs at our desires. The popular religions teach us not to have any desires whatsoever. But the fact remains that each one of us desires something or the other in our life. These desires may be tangible or intangible. "I want to earn Rs. 50 lakh in a year", is a tangible desire, while "I want to achieve my highest potential", is an intangible desire.  We all carry both, tangible and intangible desires within us.

 

However, since each one of us is unique, our desires are also unique. These unique desires have been placed inside us for our individual growth and evolution. For example, when we don't desire to do something, it is an indication that the particular task, course of study or job is not well suited for our unique personality; similarly when we desire to do something it is proof enough that we are well equipped to do that job efficiently.

 

Our desires are signs from the universe which urge us to move in a particular direction. Each desire is a part of the infinite universal power seeking manifestation, creation and expression. If we were to analyze every passionate desire, we would realize that its purpose is to enhance us. Authentic desires are wholesome and nourishing. They always fulfill and satisfy us.

We fulfill each other's desires by the work that we do. When we feel a desire to create something, we can be certain that someone somewhere desires that thing. Similarly, for every person who has something to sell, there is always a person who desires to buy it!

When a desire is put in our heart, the mechanism for its fulfillment is also given to us. All we need to do is apply the required tools in an optimum and efficient manner.

Shahrukh Khan proclaimed in 'Om Shanti Om', "When we desire something with all our heart, the universe conspires to fulfill that desire." This statement is so very true!

 

What are the factors that help manifest your desires into reality?

·         The first important factor is the intensity of your desire. You must have a 'burning' desire to make it happen. You must be willing to do whatever it takes to create your desire. This doesn't mean that you should be unethical in your actions. In fact your actions must fit within your value system; only then can you really succeed in life.

·         The second important factor is your belief system. No matter how much you desire a specific outcome, it will not happen unless you completely believe in it; both consciously and subconsciously.

How can you increase the intensity of your desire and influence your belief system?

·         In order to develop an intense desire and total belief, you need to vividly visualize your desire as though it has already been fulfilled.

·         Involve all your senses in this creative process.

·         Ask yourself, "What will I see, hear and feel when my desire gets manifested in my reality?"

·         Write down the answer and read it out to yourself. Make any changes if required.

·         Schedule a time to sit down and imagine this scene every day.

·         Do at least one visualization session in a day. It helps to do it at the same time every day since that ingrains the habit.

·          The more often you perform the visualization, the faster your desire will come to you. Once a day is good, twice a day is very good and three times a day is super efficient.

Now take an immediate action. Get a piece of paper and create your vivid visualization. Do it every day and remember to let me know when your desires get manifested!

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Chitra Jha
Inner Peace Counselor
Past Life Regression Therapist
'Inner Child Work' Facilitator
http://mylife-mysuccess.blogspot.com
http://chitrabuddha.sulekha.com

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Confident or Over-confident

 

Whenever I ask people to accept themselves unconditionally and be proud of who they are, the invariable response is, "But won't that make me over-confident and arrogant?" Today, let us put all such doubts to rest by understanding the difference between genuine confidence and over-confidence.

Confidence

·         Genuine confidence has nothing to do with pride and arrogance. It is just an honest acknowledgment of our innate capabilities.

·         Confidence comes from valuing, validating and having faith in ourselves.

Confident people

·         Really confident people do not try to prove anything to anyone.

·         They do not seek attention from others.

·         They exude a natural magnetism and charisma which attracts people towards them.

·         They exhibit joy and happiness at all times.

·         They are naturally radiant.

·         They are often very quiet and understated, yet they are not afraid to speak their truth.

·         They express themselves freely when the situation demands.

·         They are always authentic in their expression.

·         People love interacting with confident people because they too feel confident in their company.

Over-confidence

·         Over-confidence stems from deep feelings of inadequacy and inability to cope with life.

·         It is a compensatory mechanism to mask self-doubt.

·         Arrogance is one way in which over-confidence raises its ugly head.

Over-confident People

·         Over- confident people are usually loud and noisy.

·         They speak loudly and forcefully to prove their point.

·         They always seek validation from outside.

·         Even when they receive the approval they seek from others, they experience an emptiness inside them.

·         They do not feel fully satisfied with life and usually remain unhappy.

·         People display over-confidence because they do not feel good about themselves.

·         They display bravado to compensate for feelings of inferiority.

·         They like to make fun of others, but cannot take a joke about them in the right spirit.

·         Others can sense the self-doubt that lurks behind the over-confident persona.

How to become more confident?

·         Don't judge and berate yourself if you display over-confidence once in a while. Judgment compounds whatever it judges.

·         Remember that self-confidence comes from within.

·         No amount of outside approval or validation can make us confident from inside.

·         Be honest about yourself and your feelings. When you acknowledge your feelings you love and honor yourself.

·         If you feel negative about yourself, examine your self-concepts and deep rooted beliefs.

·         Most of your concepts and beliefs come from your early childhood experiences.

·         Explore your limiting beliefs and re-program yourself.

·         Forgive yourself for any perceived negative attributes. You are human and you can make mistakes, but mistakes do not define you.

·         The only thing wrong with you is the thought that something is wrong with you which needs to be fixed.

·         Instead of trying to fix yourself, confidently reveal yourself.

·         Be kind and compassionate to yourself.

·         Start believing in yourself because if you don't do that, how can you expect the world to believe in you?

·         Remember that you have a free will to change, grow, evolve, transform, blossom and bloom.

·         Congratulate yourself for doing your best, pat your back, love and accept yourself completely.

·         "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection." Buddha.

·         The more you love and value yourself, the more you will discover your power, and experience true confidence.

·         The power of choice always remains with you.

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Chitra Jha
Inner Peace Counselor
Past Life Regression Therapist
'Inner Child Work' Facilitator
http://mylife-mysuccess.blogspot.com
http://chitrabuddha.sulekha.com

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Square Pegs in Square Holes

This is that time of the year when young boys and girls, across the length and breadth of this great country decide their career path. What are the factors which help them 'make' this decision? Ideally, young people should be choosing the subjects that they 'enjoy'; something that they have an aptitude for. But that's not what happens in the 'real' world. Here, the choices depend upon the percentage of marks achieved, qualifications that fetch better paying jobs, professions that the parents have been pursuing, or subject streams that 'sound' good and respectable, something that will ensure a living.

Wait a minute! Isn't there something grossly wrong with this system? Aren't we trying to fit round pegs in square holes? Why are we doing this? Who benefits by this? Certainly not the young wards we wish well for and claim to love!! What is the way out of this self-created mess?

We all know that life is a series of choices; then why make choices that are driven by the external world. It is alright to choose a wardrobe based on current trends but choosing a career path is a very important decision. If you make a wrong decision now, you will find it difficult to retrace your steps.

We must remember that each one of us is unique. And since we are unique beings, our aptitudes are also unique. But what is an aptitude? According to Wikipedia, an aptitude is an 'innate' component of competency; which means that you will be competent doing what you have an aptitude for.

Now how do we decide our aptitude? It is very simple. Just close your eyes and ask yourself, "What is it that I desire the most? What are my skills and abilities? What kind of attitude I have towards certain professions and life in general? What do I enjoy studying? What do I enjoy doing? If time and money were of no consequence, what would I love doing?" A self-assessment will make you fully aware of your aptitudes.

Your aptitude is closely linked with your passion. So what are the benefits of following your passion?

• Your career will be an opportunity for self expression.
• You will grow exponentially.
• You will be happy in your career.
• You will be peaceful.
• You will be focused.
• You will have more clarity.
• You will feel enthusiastic.
• You will take inspired actions.
• You will enjoy your work and give it your full attention.
• You will produce excellent results.
• You will become more productive.
• You will do your best and bring out the best in others.
• Your life will become easier and much more fun.
• You will be in alignment with your life's purpose.
• You will express your unique gift.

And what will happen if you just blindly follow the trends, doing something that you are not passionate about?

 You will procrastinate.
• You will get distracted easily.
• You will resist.
• You will struggle.
• You will be unhappy.
• You will carry self-doubt.
• You will feel restless and bored.
• You will stay stuck in a job you don't care about.
• You will not feel completely fulfilled.

Let us take an example from nature. Suppose a mango tree was not being true to itself and wanted to produce oranges. What are the chances of its success? Well, a mango tree may spend its entire lifetime, trying to produce oranges but it will gain nothing except frustration. So the right course of action for a mango tree is to follow the natural law.

A regular mango tree lives in a state of peace, energy, joy and inspiration, being what it is, and happily producing mangoes. This is the path we must choose. But unfortunately we are like that hypothetical mango tree who is at war with itself, trying hard to produce oranges. It is high time we ended this war and found peace within; the peace of who we are!

And that will happen only when we choose the career we are most suited for……….Let the square pegs fit in square holes and leave the round holes for the round pegs……!

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Chitra Jha
Inner Peace Counselor
Past Life Regression Therapist
'Inner Child Work' Facilitator
http://mylife-mysuccess.blogspot.com
http://chitrabuddha.sulekha.com

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Now or Later

There are two kinds of people in this world. Let’s call them the ‘now’ types and the ‘later’ types. Go through the following checklist and decide which type are you?

‘Now’ people

• They are always drawn towards fun activities.
• They want variety in their life, right now.
• They look for immediate gratification in whatever they do.
• Their actions are driven by pleasure.
• Given a choice they always take the easy way.
• They end up spending a lot of time and resources on entertainment, television, food, shopping and mindless activities.
• They get unnerved by uncertainty.
• They delay doing uninteresting or un-pleasurable tasks.
• Their thoughts, words and actions often don’t match.
• They say something and do something else.
• They believe in gratifying their senses.
• They make ‘short-term ‘goals.
• They usually believe in ‘me-first’.
• They prefer to stay in their comfort zone.

‘Later’ people

• They are driven by results instead of immediate gratification.
• They do not indulge in too many fun activities in the present.
• They invest time and resources in taking care of their health.
• They work extra hours to accomplish worthy goals.
• They read good, informative, uplifting books.
• They take extra training to keep themselves up-to-date with the latest in their chosen field.
• They always strive to improve their lives.
• They hang out with interesting and engaging people who help them stretch their thought process.
• They follow through all their actions.
• They take risks when required.
• They are comfortable with being uncomfortable.
• They are not deterred by uncertainty.
• Their thoughts, words and actions remain in alignment.
• They act while others preach.
• They take themselves and their deep desires seriously.
• They make ‘long-term’ goals.
• They possess integrity.
• They like to stretch beyond their limitations.


Which of these two groups do you identify with? Don’t be seduced by immediate pleasures of life. Success resides with those people who can forego gratification in the present moment, and perform actions which are necessary to achieve a worthy goal. Successful people act while others are busy having fun or just whiling away their time.

Become aware. Choose success.

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Trust and Faith

Thanks to a greater understanding about the power of the word and imagination, a great many people are using affirmations and visualizations to create their dream lives. However, there are some points that need revision and emphasis while working with this empowering process. Some of these are:-

• When you visualize your dream life, the picture must be backed by a strong and unshakable faith that your dream is already a reality.

• As you mentally live in the visuals, enjoy them completely, believing that you have received them completely.

• Repeating mere words doesn’t really help, but holding your vision with unshakable faith and trust does.

• Have complete trust in your own abilities and faith in your subconscious mind’s ability to bring your dream into reality.

• Be as certain of your dream coming true, as you are of the sun rising every day. Have no doubts whatsoever. Complete trust takes us to exactly the right place for us.

• You cannot change your circumstances overnight, but you can live your present life fully and cheerfully, with the confidence that your real life is unfolding in unknown, but certain ways.

• The universe is the pilot of the plane of which you are the co-pilot. It may not be a calm flight but safe landings are assured.

• The task ahead of you is not as great as the power within you.

• The universe has reserved all the resources and opportunities required for your dream’s fulfillment, in your name. No one can take them away from you. These things are waiting for you to open yourself up and receive them.

• Know that whatever you need in the process of creating your dream will come to you. Do not look at the visible resources. Trust that you will be provided with not what you want but what you need. Let this trust grow.

• You will know that your dreams are about to be fulfilled when people, money and opportunities come together simultaneously and almost effortlessly, waiting for you to show up and say yes to them.

• It is necessary to understand that it is not you who has to do the work of manifesting anything. The all-powerful essence of the universe will do that. You only have to allow the universal power, which created the world, to create your dreams. And you can do that by letting go of your negative thoughts, beliefs and feelings about your desires.

• Remember, you will receive only when you can believe. If you doubt the manifestation process, the things will start moving away from you as certainly as they were moving towards you.

• Faith believes that something you cannot see will surely happen. Fear too believes that something you cannot see will surely happen. The only difference lies in what one imagines will happen. You can imagine positive future scenarios, and get filled with hope, faith and enthusiasm, or you can imagine negative future scenarios and become fearful and desperate.

• Destroy your own doubts and stay away from people who doubt your capabilities.

You are like a flower which is beginning to bloom. The flower feels its growth and allows it to happen. It trusts and believes in its flowering and happily basks in the sun. You too must trust and enjoy the process of your flowering.
Success comes to those who trust themselves.

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Take Back Your Power

Who have you given away your power to? Why do you feel so helpless in life? Well, as I see things, most of us have given away our power to ‘other people’. These ‘others’ come in many guise; they may be our family members, our teachers, our peers, our superiors, or our media. Why do we give away our power to them? We do that because we want to be accepted. We want to please people, in order to please ourselves. Our actions stem from our lack of confidence in our own abilities. We do not trust our own opinions.

There are a great many people (the majority) out there who willingly accept the thoughts and edicts of others. They don’t question anything that they are told. It is astounding but understandable considering the kind of premium our society places on ‘obeying and valuing’ the ‘experts’ opinion’. Since our birth we are being trained to delegate our thinking and just ‘obey’ the elders for they know what is ‘best’ for us. Thus we learn to give away our ‘power’ to others from our ‘cradle’ days, and we dutifully keep doing it until we are put into our ‘graves’.

Everyone around you (including you) considers you incapable of forming an opinion. Otherwise why would they show a news item on TV and then call in ‘the experts’ to express their opinion on it. Whether you like it or not, everyone (especially the advertising world) is out there to brain wash you. Why? Because you ‘gave’ your power to them. When did you do it? You did it when you stopped trusting your own ‘instincts’. You did it when you started following ‘the trend’; doing things because they are ‘done’ (everyone is doing them).

You do everything ‘blindly’. You allow the market trends to decide what course of study you should pursue; your own ‘interest’ in a subject is of no consequence. You allow doctors to pump medicines into your body, without questioning any of it; your body’s wisdom doesn’t count! Soliciting outside advice and help is one thing but blindly accepting other people’s thoughts and beliefs without any discernment on your part is equal to sacrilege. It violates your responsibility to yourself. There is an old saying, “The undiscerning mind is like the roots of a tree, they absorb equally all that they touch, even the poison that would kill the tree.”

Blind acceptance of existing norms is like volunteering to drink poison. You do not need to blindly accept all that your parents, siblings, teachers, political leaders, media commentators, friends or co-workers have been drilling into you. You must decide everything for yourself. Of course, you must seek people’s opinions but the final responsibility for your life lies upon you. You are the master of your own destiny. You must believe in yourself, your dreams, and your thoughts.

To take back your power in your own hands, you must become aware of your thinking process. You will ‘discover’ that most of the thoughts that you habitually think are not your own. You may also discover that most of your thoughts make you fearful of your future. Once you understand that your thoughts create your reality; it will do you great good to immediately change your fearful thoughts into ‘empowering’ ones. Every thought that you think creates your ‘world’. Become the ‘architect’ of your world. You have not taken birth as a human being in order to become a ‘robot’. You need not follow the trend, just to fit in. You need not always play it safe. You need not operate from a ‘default’ setting.

You must tap into your inner self for guidance on a daily basis and express the wisdom from within. Within you lies the most authentic source of wisdom! Ask for this wisdom, listen to it and accept its guidance. Learn to interpret the ‘voice’ of your inner self and take inspired action to express your true self.

Well, your so called ‘well-wishers’ may tell you that it is ‘egotistical’ to rely on your own thoughts. They will say that you are not yet ‘ready’ to do so. Listen to them; if you will, but once you learn to take back your power in your own hands, you will finally ‘know’ your true ‘worth’!!

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The Heart Sings and the Eyes Shine

Think of the times when your heart sings and eyes shine? What makes that happen? What are you doing at those times? Think of all that comes to your mind and write it down. This is a very important list for you. Read it first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Read it whenever you feel low, under-confident or inadequate. Add more to it when you are truly joyful.

When you appreciate your life, you get ready for more exciting times, and your life unfolds in better ways. As you remember those things which make your heart sing and eyes light up, you call forth more of such experiences into your life.

Here is a list of what makes my heart sing and my eyes light up………

When I spread the message of self empowerment
When I talk to small children and smile at them
When I sing
When I am in nature
When I talk about my work
When I do some creative work
When I receive appreciation
When people seek me out for advice
When I receive money for my work
When I give money out of love
When I give of myself
When I buy some beautiful piece of clothing or a pretty trinket
When I look beautiful
When I laugh
When I am with my soul family

This is my story……….what is yours!!!

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Taking Risks

We are told that ‘risk taking’ is a leadership trait which is essential for achieving success in life; but when we propose to do something new and creative we are usually discouraged to move forward as it involves taking risks. Isn’t it paradoxical? Why do we fear risks?

What do you think people, including their parents, must have told Wright brothers, Orville and Wilber, when they talked about flying heavier -than -air machines? Some would have laughed at them, others might have jeered. Their father, Pastor Wright must have said, “If God wanted men to fly like birds, He would have given them wings!!” His parish must have sympathized with the Pastor for siring two gullible boys, who were palmed off a risky hoax by some smart alec.

What do you think must have transpired when someone proposed a harebrained idea of ‘talking’ pictures? How outlandish must a landing on moon and people walking on its surface must have seemed? People, giving voice to such ‘ridiculous’ ideas, must have been berated, time and again, by their fellow brethren!

But the fact remains that all such so-called ‘crazy’ people with ‘silly’ ideas who dared to move beyond time-tested concepts and took risks are today known as geniuses, revolutionaries, pioneers, visionaries and heroes. They earned enough fame, name and wealth because they took the risk of questioning others and themselves. They dared to challenge all those limitations which the rest of the people took for-granted.

There is something in everyone’s life experience; whether professional, business or personal, which can be implemented in a better, more efficient and more productive manner. What distinguishes a genius from an ordinary person is the ability to spot that opportunity and take it forward. It may take much more time than you first thought; it may cost much more than you initially estimated, and it may strain all your resources more than you envisioned; but once you decide to take a calculated risk and undertake something ambitious, the costs and resources are well worth it.

You may make false starts. You may face some embarrassments. You may make costly errors. But the potential outcome of your endeavors could be as brilliant and outrageous as flying in the air and walking on the moon.

There are many frontiers left to be conquered. There are many challenges left to be overcome. There are many achievements left to be claimed. But the problem is that there aren’t enough risk-takers, explorers and inventors amongst us. There aren’t enough inquisitive people who ask the right and most obvious questions. There aren’t enough self-assured mavericks who challenge the conventional wisdom. There aren’t enough geniuses who are willing to do things which may initially make them look stupid.

Ask yourself, “Do I have a dream in my heart? Am I willing to make mistakes while pursuing my dream? Am I willing to take the requisite risks?”

Your affirmative answer might just change our world!!!!!

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Customer Service

If you are in the service industry and want your customers to keep coming back to you, follow these guidelines:-

• Always keep your promises: Be on time for each meeting with your customers. Stay ready and prepared to work. Deliver exactly what you promise. Charge exactly what you publish. Stand behind your work by offering a satisfaction guarantee.
• Be willing to help: Show that your desire to help your customers is not just motivated by money. Help your customers move forward in life. Let your customers leave you feeling better than when they came to you.
• Inspire confidence: Make your customers feel confident in your ability to help them. Make them view you as an expert in your field. Demonstrate your expertise as you work.
• Treat customers with respect: Treat customers as individuals by customizing your work to meet their needs. Treat them with kindness, politeness and courtesy.
• Make it easy to do business with you: Keep good records of all your customer information. Let customers feel confident that you will respond to their concerns quickly and professionally. Keep all customer information confidential.
• Do an excellent job: Let all aspects of your products or services communicate high quality and consummate professionalism. Let your customers expect high standard from you and get it. Whatever you do always do an excellent job.

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Some 'do's and don'ts

Follow these 'do’s and don’ts to become successful:

'Do’s

• Value mistakes as necessary feedbacks for improvement.
• Love without conditions or expectations.
• Forgive others as everyone acts according to their current level of consciousness and understanding.
• Help others with the understanding that ultimately they are responsible for their life.
• Make a conscious choice to be free. Hold your freedom as a priority which can’t be compromised.
• Take full responsibility for your state of mind. Value your inner peace more than winning or proving your point.
• Commit yourself to awareness of your inner dialogue and states of mind.
• Prioritize well- being over negativity.
• Value your energy and conserve it by not wasting it on anger, fear, jealousy, hatred and negativity.
• Do your best to face challenges and fulfill responsibilities.
• Understand the difference between what exists in thought and what exists in reality.

Don’ts

• Don’t be satisfied with a superficial change of behavior. Make an inner change which is the source of all behavior.
• Don’t let your emotions be controlled by others.
• Don’t engage in self-defeating behavior.
• Don’t let anger guide your hand.
• Don’t let fear inhibit your actions.
• Don’t let desires govern your life.
• Don’t let attachments bind you.
• Don’t cheat yourself by wasting your time.
• Do not put yourself in a box. Your limited identity is self-defined and self-imposed.
• Don’t carry a strict idea of yourself to which you must conform.
• Don’t make any comparisons with others, as you are neither above nor below anyone.
• Don’t try to control or possess others.
• Don’t depend upon others for validation or approval.
• Don’t wait for an external authority to tell you what is right and what is wrong. You are your own authority.
• Don’t attempt to appear different than you are, regardless of who you are around.
• Don’t judge others or attempt to change them. Allow them the freedom to be themselves.
• Don’t allow your past to interfere with your present; learn from it and let it go.
• Don’t react to situations and people.
• Don’t run from your problems or put off responsibilities.

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Do you love yourself?

Loving ourselves is an important step towards achieving success in life. Some of us think that we are unworthy of love while some think that it is inappropriate to love ourselves, but the fact remains that until we can love ourselves, we can’t achieve our highest potential.

Each one of us is a combination of positive, negative, and neutral qualities. Each unique combination makes us who we are; with some good bits which we admire and some tendencies that we wish we didn’t have. This is a part of being human.

If you can’t embrace your imperfections, pick at least one attribute that you admire in yourself. Perhaps you can pick many such attributes. Can you love yourself for these positive qualities?

Now ask your near and dear ones what they love about you. Add this quality to your list of things to love yourself for. Say loudly, “I deeply and completely love myself.” How does it feel? If it feels good, repeat it as often as you can.

The benefits of loving ourselves

• When we love and care for ourselves, we can truly love others without ‘needing’ their love in return.
• We remain healthy and happy.
• We become more resilient when facing stress, challenges and adversity.
• We maintain broad perspective and identify solutions.
• We make better decisions and perform at a higher level.
• We find it easy to be grateful.
• We appreciate others more easily.
• We make friends easily and garner more support from our colleagues.
• We give from the ‘over-flow’ and do not deplete our own energy.
• We become more successful at whatever we do.

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Don't get bullied

Bullies are found everywhere and create unnecessary stress in the environment. More often than not they are very insecure people. Hence, they want to control everything and everyone in order to feel secure.

Here are some characteristics of a typical bully:

• Bullies use demeaning language, humiliation, intimidation, threats and violence to promote their own selfish agenda.
• Bullies make constant belittling comments, resort to name calling and put others down.
• Bullies prefer easy targets. If they sense that someone will not succumb to their ways, or will take action against them, they look for another target.
• Bullies pay attention to those targets who are not prepared to fight back.
• Bullies prefer to target those people who get upset and emotional when harassed.
• Bullies prefer to attack when there are not many witnesses.

How to tackle a bully?

• Refuse to be bullied
• Walk away from an abusive situation
• Establish a clear boundary between you and the bully
• Document your experiences and gather witnesses.
• Write down dates, times and incidents of bullying.
• Be specific in your details.
• Report the bullying behavior to appropriate authority by handing over the documents.
• Look for better environment.

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Personal SWOT Analysis

SWOT analysis is a management tool that can effectively be used for our personal growth. SWOT stands for: Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats

Take a sheet of paper and divide it into four quadrants. Label each area as S, W, O, T. Write down the answers to following questions in the allotted quadrant.

Strengths:

• What skills and capabilities do I possess?
• Which areas do I excel in?
• What are my unique gifts?
• Which personal qualities, values and beliefs help me stand out?

Weaknesses:

• What negative belief- viruses am I carrying?
• What are the gaps in my capabilities?
• What skills do I need to develop?
• Which areas of my life can I improve upon?
• Which personal difficulties do I need to work through to reach my goals?

Opportunities:

• Which opportunities are currently available to me?
• Which circumstances can help me achieve my goals?
• Which people could offer me support in achieving my goals?
• Which tools are available to help me grow?
• What steps am I taking to create changes in my life?

Threats:

• What obstacles am I currently facing?
• Which thought processes can hinder my growth?
• Which fears are holding me back?
• Which people could be a hindrance in my progress?

This analysis will help you highlight the aspects of your growth story that you may not have ever considered. This will provide you with a different perspective on your personality.

Go ahead, review your strengths, and consider ways to address your weaknesses. Develop your skills and capabilities. Review your opportunities and use them to your advantage. Think of ways to minimize or eliminate your threats. Such actions are a one way ticket to success. Failure has no role to play here, as it just does not exist. All that exists and always did are opportunities and challenges!

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Winners vs. Losers

There are some habits which distinguish a winner from a loser. Some of these habits are:

• Losers decide to do something but don’t do it or decide not to do something, but go ahead and do it, under external pressure; winners do just the opposite. They decide to do something and do it, or decide not to do something and don’t do it.
• Losers see problems in every opportunity; winners see opportunity in every problem.
• Losers move based on instinct or impulse; winners act upon much deliberated decisions.
• Losers are too proud to admit their mistakes; winners are proud that they learn from their mistakes.
• Losers reject suggestions because the acceptance makes them feel inferior; winners welcome suggestions because they are open to learning.
• Losers call it quits at the first signs of failure; winners treat failures as stepping stones to success. Losers don’t have the power of persistence; winners always go after their dreams.
• Losers envy winners; winners congratulate every successful person.
• Losers only want to have pleasure; winners manage a proper balance between work and leisure.
• Losers want an easy life without any suffering or hardship; winners know that what one sows is what one reaps. They know that efforts and action don’t go unnoticed. They make through trials and errors, without giving up.
• Losers dream but don’t act; winners are always willing to do everything which is necessary to achieve their dreams.
• Losers don’t move forward, because they are afraid to come out of their comfort zone; winners move forward by refusing to tolerate all negative things which hold them back. They create space in their life for positive experiences.
• Losers think of all that is impossible; winners think of infinite possibilities.
• Losers submit passively to surroundings and events; winners make choices based upon what they want to do, have and become.
• Losers let others change their goals; winners believe in themselves and their dreams.

Are you a loser or a winner?

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